It has been many years since I took on the daunting task of coming out to my family and friends.  I didn’t know what to call it but I knew I was different.  When I was old enough to find the words for what it was I came out as lesbian, although that word still didn’t fit for me.  It took me many more years to come to the realization and gain the courage to claim I am Transgender.  And today I am “re-coming” out to everyone I know. I am sharing my journey here.

I have seen the devastating effects coming out can have on families and my LGBTQ friends and I over the years I finally figured out it was time to do something about it!  Something to maybe make it easier.  It’s time for being Gay to really mean happy!  I am Eli Rigatuso, I’m happy and I want you to be happy too.

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